Calibrate Conversations w/ Brady Cone

Leaving the Gay Lifestyle… But Can I Pursue Marriage Biblically?

Brady Cone

In today’s episode of Calibrate Conversations, Brady responds to a deeply honest email from a young Christian man who left the gay lifestyle and is now wrestling with a difficult question:

“If most of my past sexual sin involved homosexual desires, can I still pursue marriage to a woman? And how do I know if I’ll ever feel enough attraction?”


Brady shares his personal journey through same-sex attraction, surrendering his sexuality to Christ, rejecting identity labels, and discovering a biblical vision of marriage—not as a cure, but as a sacred covenant designed by God.


Topics discussed:


🔹 Why marriage can’t be your hope—Christ must be.

🔹 The dangers of idolizing marriage OR rejecting it completely.

🔹 Do you need strong sexual attraction to pursue a godly marriage?

🔹 How intimacy grows biblically—through knowledge, trust, commitment, and sacrifice.

🔹 Encouragement for men and women who feel unqualified or broken because of their past.


This conversation isn’t just for those with same-sex attraction—it’s for any Christian trying to understand marriage, desire, holiness, and God’s design.


Timestamps:

00:21 Welcome + Why This Topic Matters

00:51 The Email: “Most of My Sexual Sin Was Same-Sex…”

03:30 My Redemption Isn’t in Marriage—Only Christ

05:40 Why I Closed Off My Heart to Marriage

07:30 Why I Reject “Mixed Orientation Marriage” Language

09:15 Not All Sexual Sin is the Same—God Calls Some Unnatural

12:22 How Church Culture Has Mishandled Lust and Purity

15:02 Two Ditches: Idolizing or Rejecting Marriage

21:02 The Relational Attachment Model (How Attraction Should Grow)

23:55 “No—I Didn’t Trade Lust for Men for Lust for Women”


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